Booking a session with a Dominant can be a little scary, whether it is your first time or your 1000th. You probably have a lot of questions about how to prepare and arrive. Even if you have served Dommes before, we’re distinct individuals and might expect different things from you.
You may be coming to see me in NYC, catching me on tour or even inquiring about a Fly Me To You session. No matter where we are meeting, the booking process remains the same.
My friend, Ms. Maya Midnight, has a Comprehensive Guide for Complete Newbies visiting her for a first session. Her guide is helpful and worth reading before booking with any Professional Dominant.
Mistress Maya has written it to her specifications, so while I highly recommend reading it, I want you to learn the specifics of booking a session with me. This goes for NYC or otherwise.
I expect you to come to me with a sense of why you want to play with a dominant and why you have chosen me as that dominant. Mistress Maya also has a Guide to Help You Understand Your Kinky Desires I recommend you read.
Why did you choose me for this first session?
I often ask, “What drew you to me?”. I expect you to have a better answer than “I liked your photos!”. I don’t need a dissertation on the parts of my style that intrigued you; just a general idea of why you chose me. By definition, all Dommes are dominant, so I know it is not just my dominance.
Mention what I said or did that got you excited. Was it my style of dress? The language I used in my ad? Perhaps it was a specific video of mine or the way I dealt with a sub.
It could also be something that developed over time for you, like my Twitter/Bluesky behavior or how fascinating you find my blogs and newsletters. Tell me that. Knowing this helps me understand why we’ll have good chemistry. A sentence or two will suffice – no need to go into great detail.
Sending your introductory email
An introductory email should be clear and concise. If you send me a novel, especially for your first session, I’m much less likely to give a quick response. I’ll save it until I have the time and the energy to read it through and answer accordingly.
My time is valuable – don’t waste it giving me your life story.
I do not give a flying fuck about your looks or dick size. If you send a photo or tell me you are a “fit white guy” with a “big dick” (by your assumption), you have just seriously decreased your chances of even getting a response. Body type only comes into play if we are doing heavy bondage or suspension to prepare the right gear for your size and weight.
I could go into more detail, but Mistress Maya already has in the linked blogs – so I’ll move on.
You will only contact me through my website to book. I don’t DM or chat on non-paid platforms. This is to protect you from scammers and catfishes. My contact page has a quick overview of the rules and requirements for scheduling a session. I’ll go deeper into those details here.
Your first contact needs to contain several things. First, I’ll need a name and a way to contact you. If your email address has a typo, I won’t be able to answer you. Always double-check your contact info.
I live in New York City. I am here 90% of the time, however, I do go on tours and accept Fly Me To You sessions. When you’re asking for a session, I need to know if you want to see me outside of NYC.
To decide if we’re a good fit, I need you to share your session interests and hard limits. Preferable 3 of each. If you are still figuring that out, you can tell me what sensations or activities you are curious about or have inspired you/ turned you off.
In the interest of getting us from inboxes to the dungeon, it’s best if you can tell me when you would like to see me and for how long. If you don’t need a specific time or day, let me know what works best. You can tell me the time of day or days of the week that are preferable.
Booking your first session
The first thing we will do is set the date, time, and session length. Once accomplished, I will require a deposit to finish the booking. The deposit amount is based on the session length.
If I’m on tour, away from New York City, you will need to also confirm which city you are trying to book my time in.
I do not accept PayPal, CashApp, Venmo, or Zelle. If you are booking with someone claiming to me and they ask for any of these services, you are dealing with a scammer.
Your session is not booked and no time is held until I’ve received the deposit. If you can’t send the deposit right away, know that you’re risking losing that time. If you need to wait more than an hour, email me again to make sure the time is still open.
Deposits are non-refundable. I have a 36-hour cancelation policy that allows for re-bookings. You must cancel at least 36 hours ahead of your session start time. Then I will give you 24 hours to pick a new session date and time that occurs within 7 days of the original session.
Any other bookings beyond those parameters will require a new deposit.
After receiving the deposit, I will give you a protocol to confirm your appointment. Confirmations are extremely important. If you miss any steps of this process, you forfeit the session and deposit. You must rebook.
You’ll learn the neighborhood of the location when booking. During the confirmation protocol, you will receive more location info as necessary.
Missing your confirmation is not considered canceling; it’s flaking. I hate flakes. If you need to cancel, that is completely understandable. Life happens, and jitters happen. I get it. That’s why I take a deposit, to protect my time.
Same-day cancellations are best accompanied by the full tribute if you want a chance to see me in the future. Showing that you value my time will go far in currying favor with me.
I don’t get into scene details during booking. I’ll take the list of interests and hard limits you shared, see where they meet with mine, and create a mental outline of a scene based on our chemistry. I’ll consider mutual feelings/moods that day to keep the session organic.
If I can tell you how your session will go during the booking, I would be an actress, not a dominatrix. I don’t have a script or rigid plan.
Arriving for your session
Once you’re in the building and have reached the door, knock. Don’t try to open it yourself. I’ll greet you and give you instructions. Do not make assumptions or stroll in, even if you have been to the space before. Always wait for and follow my instructions.
This is for your benefit. I take discretion very seriously. As do the other dommes that might also be taking sessions at that dungeon. In NYC, I use several shared spaces. I want to guarantee that you see no one but me.
Upon arrival, if you would like to use the bathroom, you may ask. The shower is also available, but it is polite that you arrive in a clean and put-together state. If you’re noticeably not prepared, I’ll direct you to shower.
If I have to send you to the shower, the showering time will come out of your session length.
Once in the room, I like to take some time with you to discuss the session, limits (again), and any safety concerns. I want to know your hard limits, pain tolerance, and any medical issues.
This conversation will happen outside of the dynamic. I want you to speak freely here. I can be intimidating, but I don’t want you to feel scared to speak up at the moment. Your safety and comfort are integral parts of building trust.
If a quick consult before play isn’t enough to make you feel safe and comfortable, you have four options. The first is to book the extra time and let me know while booking you want a sit down before play for an in-depth discussion.
Your 2nd option is to book a consultation with me in Manhattan. These are quick (30-minute) meetings in a public place, like a coffee shop or park. You can get to know me a little, make sure you’re ready, and that I’m the right domme for you. I’m always a Dominant, but I will not be dominating you in this space.
The 3rd option is to book an outing with me. This can be dinner before the session or as a separate event to enjoy an evening or afternoon with me. Outings take place in public but, some subtle, playful, or dynamic can be included.
Your 4th option is to call me on NiteFlirt or text me on SextPanther to discuss what a possible session could be like. I love chatting about the possibilities and my subs love the extra build-up to the scene. It can also remove some of the awkwardness, of getting to know each other.
Go forth and book!
You’ve read this far, you must be desperate to get to the fun part, the session. This is the only part I won’t tell you about before the session. You will need to book a session to experience it for yourself. The only way to get rid of a fear is to face it.
I can do a lot to help you feel comfortable, but at the end of the day, I like a healthy level of fear. Especially when I get to use it for my fun. Now, head to my contact page and book! Consultations, outings, FMTYs and sessions in New York City or elsewhere are all welcome.
