As a Dominant, I have many skills. Some came naturally, others I learned over time. Unfortunately, being omnipotent did not come naturally to me, nor can I learn it as a skill. I’ve always been dominant, but I will never be omnipotent.
Being a good Mistress requires the ability to read people and the intuition to know what someone needs at a particular moment. This is not the same as omnipotence. Many expect the latter from their mistresses.
I’m good, but I’m not a mind reader. I can make educated guesses based on your words, body language and our past experiences together. However, my intuition can only go so far.
Before booking your session with me, you’ve been doing your research. Maybe you follow my social media, or you’ve been watching my clips. You (should) know things about me.
I have not done that type of research on you. In fact, when your email arrives in my inbox, you’re just some stranger from the internet to me. Even if we’ve spoken on one of my chat platforms or you’re following my fanclub, I don’t know that unless you tell me.
Sharing how I might know you makes me really excited to see you. I love a sub who does their research. Even more so when you take the time and effort for us to get to know each other before playing in-person.
I don’t require online play before in-person play. Playing online first helps so our first session together won’t require as much time feeling you out for what you can handle/enjoy.
Only omnipotent beings can guess your needs
On my contact page, I list the information I need in your first booking email. Knowing your interests/limits and when you want to see me are key in booking a session. Telling me that you want me to decide because I’m in control is not helpful.
If I were omnipotent, I would know your schedule and how much time you have to spend with me. However, I’m not omnipotent. I can’t guess that Tuesdays after 4pm in Manhattan are the best for you unless you tell me.
Time and again, I ask, “Do you have certain days of the week or times of day that work best for you?” and I receive, “Whatever is best for you, Ms. De Luca.” I like being in control, but sessions don’t happen in a vacuum. I know you have a whole life outside of our play that must be scheduled around.
I ask for your top 3 interests and limits to give me an idea if we’re a match. Again, you know things about me, but I know nothing about you. If I were an omnipotent being, booking would be nearly instant.
I’m a Dominant with varied interests. I’m not some one-trick pony. Not only do I have a variety of kinks, but I also like to play in different ways. Variety keeps things fun.
Some sessions make me so happy that I can’t contain my laughter and smile. Other sessions make me want to tap into the meanest and coldest parts of myself. As I’ve said many times, no 2 sessions are alike.
Imagine you book a session with me, saying you love how brutally dominant I am with my feet. I take that to mean you want a heavy ball-busting session, but really, you love my sensual foot worship videos. Assuming that I’m omnipotent and can read your mind would leave a lot of room for error.
Lucky for you, if you treat me like I’m omnipotent in the booking process or at the start of an online scene, I’ll ask you questions to gather more info. I’m not undermining the play or trying to waste time; I’m making sure we’re on the same page.
Often, subs will call me or start a chat session when they’re already in a worked-up state. They know me from my ads or from my videos, but I don’t know them. They’re expecting me to give them the experience they saw in that one view of me, but I have no way of knowing what they are expecting.
A friend once told me a story of doing a session with someone new, where she created a beautiful scene with the kinks he had mentioned. She was skilled and did some amazingly talented activities. At the end of the session, he looked at her and said, “It was good, but it wasn’t like the video.”
She had never made a single video in her career, at that time. To this day, she has no clue what video that man was referring to. I have hundreds, if not thousands, of videos on the internet. If you asked me to have a session like my videos, I still wouldn’t be able to guess what that means.
I can do a lot to figure out what makes you want to see me or play with me, but I can’t do everything. Kink is about the give and take. It’s a collaboration. You bring your submission to me, and I make an experience with it.
The more forthcoming you are, the better I can create a scene for us both to enjoy. I mentioned not being a one-trick pony, but I’m also not a checklist domme. I’m not for everyone, and that’s a good thing.
I design our play based on where our mutual interests meet. When you tell me what you like and what you don’t like, it helps me know what other activities or sensations you may or may not enjoy. Telling me when you want to see me, or what you hope to enjoy with me, is not topping from the bottom.
I love hearing exactly what I did or said that made you choose me. I find it flattering. Telling me you want to see me because we both enjoy a strict and sensual style, and you dream of being held as my foot-loving captive, like I described in that one video.
Just a few sentences will do; I’m not omnipotent, but I’m pretty intuitive.
Answering all of my questions in a clear and concise manner gives me all the tools I need to know if we’re a good fit and how to move forward with you. I can’t make your dreams come true unless you give me the foundation to do so.
It’s part of the fantasy that I exist as this all-knowing, all-seeing, all-powerful, omnipotent Goddess, but I exist in reality. At the end of the day, I must work within its constraints. I can only truly know the information you reveal to me.
When you approach, be prepared to share the information I need, and I’ll be prepared to give you the best experience of me that I can.
